My parents were (are) very codependent with one another, and I practically slept in their bed until I was a teen because I was afraid of a ghost I thought lived in my bedroom.Let's just say boundaries were never really my family's thing.When we are supposed to hang out, he will text me at 7 p.m., asking, "How's 9? Anyway, the last time he did that, I told him that since I hadn't heard from him, I made other plans.When I set that boundary with him, he got the hint that he needed to set plans earlier.It isn't that popular Christian conceptions of dating boundaries are too big, but that their scope is too small. It will draw boundaries that reflect the full personhood of each individual by showing concern for every aspect of each individual—personal, emotional, moral, and sexual, to name only a few of those many interrelated aspects. Personal agency maintained by good boundaries furnishes romantic intimacy with meaning and substance.We ask physical and quantitative questions: “How many inches can I move my hand? So here are some ways to think about not only physical boundaries but also several fundamental aspects of personhood. Love presupposes freedom, and freedom presupposes the relational safety to say “no.” (2) Emotional boundaries promote relational health.
Timeliness is as important as integrity in a relationship (Prov. To respect timeliness in what you allow yourself to feel and how you express it does not devalue your emotions through suppression. Yet we often talk about sexual purity as putting our hearts in a cage only to be unlocked in on the wedding day.
However, I believe that people will treat you how you treat yourself, and proper boundaries are indicative of good self-esteem and self-respect. In fact, they can just be small reminders that show someone how you expect to be treated.